Stupid idiot

[district12ravenclaw]

So yeah, I think Steve just blew through that $1000 that I let him keep earlier. I knew I should've taken more. He'd better have a damn good explanation as to why he was gambling instead of sitting in his conference. I don't even want to see him right now. And when I stormed off upon hearing that news that he just blew all his winnings, did he come after me? NO! The a-hole is still at the effing craps table. I wish these walls were thicker so that I could really rip him a new one. I knew this was a bad idea coming here, I knew it, I knew it, I knew it.

ETA: It's been about an hour since I walked away and he still hasn't come up yet! He is in so much freaking trouble, and that's probably why he's not coming up. Even when I busted him, he said that he had until 4:30 to gamble. Well, it's now 5:10, that's just a little bit past 4:30. Grr!

ETA: Two hours, no sign. I'm getting pretty hungry and we're supposed to go to Sammy's Woodfired Pizza tonight.

ETA: Yeah, 3 hours later and he's still downstairs. I wouldn't doubt it if he didn't show up until 11, which is his gambling curfew. Unbelievable. I think I'm going to find the most expensive thing on the room service menu and order it. It's 41 degrees outside right now, so it's way too cold for me to go out alone.

ETA: Well well well, it's 8:23 and guess who just showed up? And guess who lost all his money? And guess who gave me an attitude when he said it? Like it's my fault? He's the freaking idiot who doesn't know when enough is enough; he has no one to be mad at but himself.

Comments

[findthetruth.livejournal.com]

sounds like you should have taken ALL the money. He obviously wasnt responsible the first time, he messed up. He shouldnt have gotten a dime. I dont care if he won 1 million, he skipped out on IMPORTANT work. Sounds like you should have been on Dr Phil for his gambling problem, not having a child. Im thinking Dr. Phil would have ripped him a good one.

[stevesbabygirl.livejournal.com]

I should've taken it all, but as always, I was trying to be the nice, pushover wife.

I totally think we should've been on Dr. Phil for this! This is just a little more serious than my screaming uterus, which is probably really angry at me right now. When I went to play Let It Ride, this fucker sat down two seats away from me and proceeded to chain smoke 4 cigarettes. I sat there with my jacket over my nose so that I could breathe, and the asshole didn't get the hint. Idiot!

[sucia01.livejournal.com]

You should of said "Hey asshole in case you forgot I'm carring your child, put the cigarrette OUT".

This kind of shit is unacceptable. I'd leave and go home, seriously let him learn you don't tolerate that shit. Pack your bags at the very least appear as if you were preparing to leave. Maybe that will scare him!

Check JetBlue and see if you can fly home tomorrow or tonight. I'll even come and pick you up from the airport.

[stevesbabygirl.livejournal.com]

Steve wasn't the one smoking, it was some old guy who was hacking up a lung in between puffs. Steve doesn't smoke at all, never has, never will.

Packing and leaving sounds pretty damn nice right now. Thanks for the offer to pick me up. It seems like there's no point in him being here either since it doesn't look like he's going to his sessions.

[sucia01.livejournal.com]

Ha when I'm made I tend to refer to my DH as "this fucker" so I just assumed you did too. :)

I'd leave if the conference isn't benefiting him he should take his ass home.

[stevesbabygirl.livejournal.com]

Hahaha, that's funny! Usually the worst I'll call him is an asshole. I hate slamming him like that, but if the shoe fits, ya know?

He swore to me that he is going to his sessions, and since he has no money right now, I believe him because there's nothing else for him to do.

[rancid13.livejournal.com]

That really blows....have you heard from him yet? I sure hope you lay into him tonight. I would just go get dinner by myself if I were that hungry and still no sign of him, what a butthole!

[stevesbabygirl.livejournal.com]

It's been 3 hours and he still hasn't come up yet. Let me tell you how excited I am to be having this man's child right now.

[sarahh05.livejournal.com]

I'd hop on a plane and go home too. Make him realize you're not gonna stick around for his unacceptable behavior. I'm sure the stress you're going through isn't good for the baby.

Fly home and treat yourself to a nice spa day! ;o)

[stevesbabygirl.livejournal.com]

It's very tempting at this point. But I feel like I need to stick around and maintain what little influence I have over him, i.e. taking half of his winnings so he doesn't lose all of it. I'm sure his boss would be less than thrilled to hear that he's skipping his sessions to go gamble.

[luvbeingamommy.livejournal.com]

Oh wow Heather. I would be so pissed off. Not to mention this kind of stress isn't good at all for you and baby right now. Seriously, stress can do some pretty bad stuff to you!

I agree with the others, did you fly there or drive? You should fly home.

[stevesbabygirl.livejournal.com]

We drove here, Steve doesn't fly.

Steve probably doesn't care about what the stress does to me or Ducky, because that would involve him thinking about something other than himself.

[luvbeingamommy.livejournal.com]

Really? Has he ever flown? haha, you should take the car and leave! heehee!

Ducky, cute!

[stevesbabygirl.livejournal.com]

Oh yeah, he's flown a lot in his life. But during our honeymoon, which was coincidentally here in Vegas, we hit some really bad turbulence on the way back and it spooked him. Ever since that, he won't fly.

Thanks!

[luvbeingamommy.livejournal.com]

you can email me if you would like to talk more.

[stevesbabygirl.livejournal.com]

I just emailed you, thanks :).

[lila-02.livejournal.com]

Ugh, everytime you post about the gambling it makes me so mad for you. I work with a guy who seems to have a bit of a problem too. He and his wife made a deal where he gets $X for the year to gamble and that's it. Do you all have a system like that? It seems like it's not just the money that's the issue though, but also his inability to leave a game to focus on more important things in his life - i.e. you, and his job. Am I reading that right?

In any event, I hope things get better. Ducky is an adorable nickname!

[stevesbabygirl.livejournal.com]

He gets a poker allowance every month that he can use at the casino down the street from our house. We instituted that earlier this year, and so far, it's working really well. Vegas just tends to screw everything up.

When he's here, it's like nothing else matters. He spends all day down at the tables and doesn't spend any time with me. He swears that he's going to his sessions, so I'll believe him on it, but I just hate being ignored, and I really let him know that on the way to dinner last night.

Thank you! I'm glad you like our nickname :). We named him/her that because we're big Ducks fans.

[mwright626.livejournal.com]

I'm so frustrated for you :( I wish I could help! This kind of stress is not good for Ducky!!

[stevesbabygirl.livejournal.com]

Steve said he will have guilt for the rest of his life if something ever happens to Ducky. I made a really mean comment about how I wouldn't be surprised if I didn't have a baby by the end of this week because of how stressed I am. It was so wrong of me to say, and I apologized for it later.

[annie-girl.livejournal.com]

so if he lost the whole $1000, what was he using to gamble with for the next 3+ hours?

The problem with gamblers (my dad is one, although he doesn't go over his limit... he sets a very very high limit though...) is they are CONSTANTLY trying to recoup their loses. So they take out more and more money trying to regain back what they lost. Sounds like that's Steve's problem?

Has he gone to ANY sessions? Has any of his co-workers seen him not at the sessions? That is kind of scary. I'm sorry you are dealing with this.... :(

[stevesbabygirl.livejournal.com]

He swears he did go to his sessions, so in good faith, I'll believe him. I took Steve's credit and ATM cards so that he couldn't take out more money, but he admitted to me that while I was in the shower yesterday, he went through my purse and took out his ATM card, then took out $500. He actually did have money when he came back to the room, so we're actually still ahead by about $250.

[surftraitor.livejournal.com]

I think Vegas trips probably aren't the best idea for him. I know you two have fought a lot over it in the past. He's really going to need to get this gambling addiction settled before the baby arrives. ((((BIG HUGS))))

[stevesbabygirl.livejournal.com]

Unfortunately, he kind of had to go, because he's here for a work conference that he goes to every year. I lit into him last night, and he seemed to realize the err of his ways, but we'll see. Thanks for the hugs!

[december27jjb.livejournal.com]

Ugh. ((((((((((hugs))))))))) to you. I am mad at him for you! I hate gambling. I hope you two can leave Vegas soon to get this trip over with.

[stevesbabygirl.livejournal.com]

We're leaving tomorrow. We were going to stay until Saturday, but under the circumstances, we decided that wasn't a good idea.

[ladyd088.livejournal.com]

Quote: He swears he did go to his sessions, so in good faith, I'll believe him. I took Steve's credit and ATM cards so that he couldn't take out more money, but he admitted to me that while I was in the shower yesterday, he went through my purse and took out his ATM card, then took out $500. He actually did have money when he came back to the room, so we're actually still ahead by about $250.

To me, that scares me!! Totally an addicted gambler if he's doing that. Not cool. And $500? WOW that's a lot of money.

I hope that you can get thru this. Has he thought about going to gamblers AA? It might help him control his urges. The fact that he has to go to these meetings every year, in Vegas, isn't good for you two. Just think, this time next year you will have a baby to deal with. Will you be able to watch him then? For you, you need to know that he can control his abilities - obviously right now he can't.

Make it home safely!!

Also, officially...CONGRATS on Ducky!! That's VERY Awesome and I'm happy for you two!

[stevesbabygirl.livejournal.com]

It scares me too, and even though we have more than what we came with at this point, I don't want to give any of it to him. He, of course, doesn't think he has a gambling problem. When we're at home, he's very mindful and respectful of the rules that I put in place for his poker playing. But here, it's like a whole other story.

This conference isn't in Vegas every year. Every other year, it alternates between San Diego and Nevada, either Reno or Vegas. It's a big conference for him, so he has to go, but I don't see how this is going to work with a baby. At least next year, it will be in San Diego, and we'll have a 4-5 month old at that point. Hopefully he'll wise up a little when he sees he has more of a responsibility to his family.

Thank you :D!

[punkwan44.livejournal.com]

hey i saw you while reading Findthetruth's post and you seem cool. i'm gonna add you..add me back??

[stevesbabygirl.livejournal.com]

Thanks :)! Sure, I'll add you back!